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Findom is a realm of power, devotion, and energetic exchanges. It’s a space that challenges us to maintain sovereignty while navigating complex dynamics. But one of the greatest challenges is ensuring that the shadows we encounter—narcissistic entities, toxic energy, or demonic influences—don’t spill over into our personal relationships or friendships.

 

As Celestial Goddess Luxor, I’ve learned that true mastery in this work means knowing where to draw the line—not just in Findom but in every area of my life. Here’s how I protect my relationships, honor my boundaries, and keep my energy clean.

 

1. Energy Awareness: Recognizing the Spillover

 

Narcissistic entities and demonic energies don’t just stay confined to a session or a dynamic—they can linger and seep into your relationships if you’re not careful. This can look like:

• Feeling irritable or drained after interactions, which you then project onto loved ones.

• Becoming hyper-vigilant, distrustful, or defensive in friendships because of toxic subs.

• Allowing manipulative behavior from subs to lower your standards in other areas of life.

 

The key is recognizing when these energies are creeping into spaces they don’t belong. The moment I notice this, I pause, reflect, and reset.

 

2. Cleansing Your Relationships: Protecting Those You Love

 

Just as I cleanse my physical and digital space, I also take steps to protect my personal relationships. Here’s how:

• Energy Clearings After Sessions: I never carry the energy of a sub or session into my personal life. Before reconnecting with friends or loved ones, I take time to ground, clear, and reset.

• Journaling or Reflecting: If I notice tension in a friendship, I ask myself: “Is this tension real, or is it residue from my work?” Often, awareness alone is enough to shift my energy.

• Protective Visualization: Before spending time with friends or partners, I visualize a bubble of white light around my personal connections, keeping external influences out.

 

By consciously separating my work energy from my personal energy, I ensure that the people I care about receive the best version of me.

 

3. Setting Boundaries in Friendships and Relationships

 

Narcissistic entities thrive on access, and they’ll exploit any crack in your boundaries—even through people you trust. That’s why clear, consistent boundaries are essential, even with loved ones.

 

Here’s how I draw the line:

• Respect for My Work: I ensure that my friends and partners respect the sacredness of my Findom practice. I don’t tolerate jokes, dismissiveness, or misunderstandings about what I do.

• Emotional Independence: I don’t use my personal relationships to vent about toxic subs or negative experiences. Instead, I handle those emotions privately or through professional support.

• No “Bleeding Over”: If a friendship or relationship feels strained, I ask myself if I’m allowing my work to influence how I show up. Then I course-correct accordingly.

 

Friendships and relationships are sacred. They deserve the same care and respect I give to my clients—if not more.

 

4. Identifying Hidden Narcissistic Influences in Relationships

 

Sometimes, narcissistic energy doesn’t just come from subs—it can also show up in your friendships or partnerships. It’s crucial to recognize these patterns and address them.

 

Signs of narcissistic behavior in relationships:

• One-Sided Support: You’re always there for them, but they never reciprocate.

• Emotional Manipulation: They guilt you into prioritizing them over your boundaries.

• Energy Draining: You feel exhausted or overwhelmed after spending time with them.

 

When I encounter these dynamics, I handle them the same way I would with a sub:

• I set firm boundaries.

• I communicate my needs clearly.

• If the behavior doesn’t change, I distance myself without guilt.

 

Not all friendships or relationships are meant to last, and that’s okay. Your peace is worth more.

 

5. Honoring Your Inner Circle

 

Your friends, partners, and loved ones are part of your inner circle—they’re the ones who see you beyond your role as a Dom/me or energy worker. Protecting these relationships is crucial to maintaining balance and joy in your life.

 

Ways to nurture your inner circle:

• Quality Time: Dedicate time to friends and loved ones where work and Findom aren’t the focus. Be present with them.

• Open Communication: Share how you’re feeling but without offloading your burdens onto them. Let them see your human side.

• Gratitude: Regularly express appreciation for their support, love, and presence in your life.

 

Your inner circle is your sanctuary. Keep it sacred and free from the shadows of your work.

 

6. Preventing Narcissism From Creeping Into Your Own Behavior

 

Working in Findom and energy work means constantly navigating power dynamics. It’s easy to let that power shift your behavior in ways that might unintentionally harm your relationships.

 

Here’s how I stay grounded:

• Humility: I remind myself that my personal relationships are about mutual respect, not dominance.

• Self-Awareness: I check in with myself regularly: “Am I showing up authentically, or am I letting my work persona bleed into my personal life?”

• Empathy: I practice deep listening and compassion, ensuring that my loved ones feel seen and valued.

 

Power is a gift, but it must always be wielded responsibly—especially in the spaces where we are most vulnerable.

 

Final Thoughts: Keeping the Shadows at Bay

 

As energy workers, healers, and Dom/mes, we walk a fine line. The power we wield is immense, but so is our responsibility to protect ourselves and those we love from the shadows that come with it.

 

The key is vigilance:

• Recognize when narcissistic energy or demonic influence is creeping into spaces it doesn’t belong.

• Set boundaries that protect your peace and your relationships.

• Nurture your inner circle with the same care and attention you give to your clients.

 

Remember, your personal relationships are not just an extension of your work—they are your sanctuary, your refuge, and your source of joy. By keeping them separate, sacred, and protected, you ensure that your life remains balanced, vibrant, and fulfilling.

 

With love and divine power,

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Celestial Goddess Luxor